Thread:PeaVZ108/@comment-31727837-20180522220556/@comment-26888167-20180523014638

Then that's the true core problem. You're so focused and used to seeing your flaws, that you fail to realize your qualities.

I'll tell you something. There was this experiment where several people were in a room, and they were told to find everything brown they could see. So people would look around the room, seeing as many brown things as they could. Then they were told to close their eyes, and say all the red things they saw. Guess what? No one could mention a single red thing in the room. Why? Because they were looking for the brown! But once they opened their eyes and were told to look for red things, they were able to notice how many red things were in the room.

Moral of the story? Your mind only shows you more of what you focus on. I think that's your problem. You're used to focusing on your problems and mistakes, and therefore, you overlook every positive aspect of yourself.

So what are your qualities? Try to really think about this. Grab a piece of paper, and write down every single positive aspect about yourself. Anything positive counts, no matter if it's big or small. There is absolutely no person in the world that doesn't have at least one good quality. Guess what? Even the most evil villains from fiction you can think of have their qualities. Maybe they're smart, maybe they're persuasive, maybe they're good at something. The point here, is that everyone has qualities. You just don't see them, because you're too used to focusing on negative aspects. It's how our brains work, we see what we focus on.